Over the years, and through experience, I have learned a lot by observing relations and people. The following are not all-inclusive, or 100%, but they should definitely be looked at when considering being with a person for the long haul, because any negative answers to these questions, can, or might mean character flaws in the person, and problems for you later on. The reality is more often than not, a stable life with success produces a better mate, than an unstable life with chaos and no success. If the person your considering as a life long mate refuses to be open about some questions consider it a red flag.
- Does the person come from a broken home/divorce?
- Does the person come from a home where alcohol and drugs were used?
- Does the person drink heavily or do drugs?
- Does the person have a background involving discipline problems?
- Does the person have a history of poor school performance?
- Does the person come from a home where keeping up with the Jones’s was norm?
- Has the person actually supported themselves in the real world, or lived with mommy and daddy waiting for someone to marry to support them?
- Does the person save or spend? What is their credit rating?
- Does the person like to read, expand their horizons, and enjoy education?
- Does the person keep their house clean, cook, and other household duties?
- Does the person relate well to others and children in social settings?
- Does the person show sensitivity or callousness?
- Does the person act domineering, controlling, bombastic, and argumentative?
- Does the person have great conflict resolution or are they insecure quitting like babies?
- Does the person meet people or spend all their time on internet dating?
- Does the person dream and show action, or just dream and do nothing?
- Does the person like to laugh and can they take a joke?
- Does the person act jealous around friends of opposite sex?
- Do they hang around stable or questionable people? Who are their friends?
- Does the person have sexual boundaries that align with yours?
- Does the person show the ability to lead or expect you to do everything?
- Does the person share hobbies and passions with you?
- Does the person have a value system that involves integrity?
- Does the person want children or not want children?
- Does the person believe in God and involve God in their life? Does their belief align with yours?
Albert Moyer, Jr. 